Now is ow a factor in our lives - yes. H has a child with her so she can never really just go away. But I refuse to give that girl any more control over my life. This whole sitch has sucked enough of my energy already as it is.
But imagine if you have a child or children with your H. It is possible if your M doesn't work out, OW may have a huge place in your child/ren's lives as a stepmother or whatever. That alone would make me stop and think! That to me is one of the hardest things to deal with, the OW spending considerable time with my kids as messed up as she is!
