Please forgive me for speaking plainly. When I read your sitch, I hear a description of a man who is verbally and emotionally abusive to you and your son. This is not a situation where I think 50/50 custody would be healthy for the child.
Limited visitation - maybe.
If you agree with my assessment, please start getting your ducks in a row from a documentation and legal advice standpoint.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
