Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Was hoping to get some advice on birthday party for our daughter. Do I invite him or no? Don't know what the right way for Dbusting is for this sitch since it is the first birthday without him for our children. They have the same birthday. Don't know if son is going to get anything either. He didn't give him anything for Christmas but I covered and gave him an extra gift so he wouldn't get his feelings hurt. He is my son but my H raised him. Very confused today and for the past couple of days.
Don't invite him yourself. Ask your D if she wants to invite him, but make sure you tell her not to expect that he will come. I have no idea how to word that.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I like your new name! Confused me for a sec. As for the birthday, I would say invite him. Can't hurt. Big family events like that aren't too threatening IMO. Anyone else have a different opinion?
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
I agree with John. It is about your D and her big day.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Hi Kevin and Jon, I did invite him but he didn't show. I didn't tell D12 ooops 13. So this way she wouldn't be upset if he didn't show. It was a bust. He didn't show up. I think Mish was right guys, I shouldn't have done it. I was disappointed also because it was the first party he wasn't at in 13yrs.
He has her today though cause she is really sick with flu and I tried to call him because I was missing so much work with all of this and the kids, and left him a message (he works at night) yesterday around 1:00 when the school called to come get her and he texted me when he woke up and said that he was sorry he didn't hear the phone ringing or he would have gone to get her. So I asked him if he would be able to watch her and he said sure just drop her off in the morning on your way to work. And that he would call in the morning to let me know when he got out of work, to make sure I wouldn't be late.
It was a civil conversation so I feel a little better. Oh by the way D13 is telling me not to get a boyfriend cause H doesn't have a girlfriend and she wants us back together. LOL
Thanks Jon, I'm glad you like my new name. 25 suggested I change it because I'm not the lost one, H is the lost one. So I did.
Does anyone know how I change my thread topic also, since he is contacting now? Just regarding our D13 and bills but I think I need to change it. What does everyone else think?
Hit reply, and in the subject line change it to whatever you want and then hit submit.
At least things are civil for you 2. That is a good start in the right direction.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
