You can always do your 'homework' instead of stressing over this
Would dressing up more make you feel better about yourself? Most men pay little attention to what they wear, but your H may be one of the exceptions.
There could be many explanations: It may well be that he feels more comfortable and relaxed when you are with him and does not feel 'obliged' to dress up...or maybe you only notice more when he is with you... or he might be even contrary and rebel to what he percives as an attempt to control him...
I'll stop: I think I am rambling.
If Opt had posted what you posted earlier, what would your answer to her be?
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
