Hey BBJ, nice to read you again. Although, I must admit that your posts have me shaking my head in disbelief at times. Dan waltzes right in and waltzes out without any concern for your privacy?
He is going for several weeks and does not wait for you to put the kids to bed? He just leaves?
Is your father aware of his less than "normal" behaviour and the way he has (in your words) disrespected you?
Anyhow, if you still do not want a divorce, I don't see you having him served anytime soon. As far as Dan is concerned he will sign that paper when the cows come home.