well had a good night of sports. I wish it was quiet... But
WAS called my MOM. And went on to tell her that she is keeping her promises and that is why she called her ( WTF ?? ) Anyways MOM told her that she was willing to talk to her if she was calling to work on the marriage. Then asked her if the affair was going on. WAS answered YES. So MOM said well we really do not have anything to talk about and ended the conversation.
I got an email asking for a small favour and then a phone call asking about the state of the house.... Which I am just going to ignore.
Like I know that you have to be off your block to have an affair. But to tell my mom she is keeping her promises is really out to left field. I am assuming that she is going to come at me hard now on the house stuff. If some of the more experienced people can give me some pointers or opinions on how the next little while is going to go....
I am sticking to my plan of ... If you want a divorce you can work your ass of for it. I am doing sweet F all.
Sorry for the semi-rant. Today ticked me off.
It's not a rant and don't apologize, you're allowed, trust me.
Stick to the plan on letting her doing all the work with regards to the divorce.
No favors. You don't owe her anything.
State of the house? Is she asking if it's clean & well kept? Why? That's seems odd to me.
Your wife is having an affair - what are you doing right now?
The quickest way to turn this around is to become the WAS (within limits).
Start dating if you haven't already (and i know, the most common response is "i can't do that, I'm standing up for my marriage"), I get it, you are doing that, is that helping? What you need to do is counter-intuitive, they should post this on every page on this site: do the opposite of what you're currently doing if you want to see different results.
She will only change when she experiences what you are going through. Do you notice you want your wife back? I'm sure notices it? That's one thing to stop: no more pursuing in any shape, fashion or form. So what is the opposite of pursuing? Standing still or moving in the opposite direction? Put on the show, GAL but really get a life, change your look, your appearance, the things you do, go completely dark with her. I mean no contact whatsoever for 3-4 weeks. If you have kids, she can contact you regarding that but keep your responses limited to the kids, no R talk whatsoever and keep the conversation short.
