Understandable. Bad habits are hard to break. But until you do he will not take you seriously. He may never. Who knows.
Just figure out what you need and want like we asked from the very begining. That is why it is so critical to detach from the person that is hurting you so you can make non-emotional decisions on what is best for YOU. Stop worrying about what your H thinks. What if he is screwed up or suffers from a personality disorder? Your decision would be based on delusions versus reality. Think about what your baseline is. What are your NUTS?
