You can tell your kids that what their dad did was wrong. Cheating is wrong, adultery in wrong. The world has a moral fabric. If what he did was OK, they they are supposed think it's OK to break promises and break up families. Yet, at the same time, we must forgive people. Hate the sin, love the sinner. They love their dad, though they don't approve of what he did. What applies to their dad, to a lesser degree, applies to the OW.
That's all you can do.
Ummm.....How are you supposed to feel about the woman who willfully participated in the destruction of your marriage and the breakup of your family?
You are crying because you are human, and you were screwed over in a terrible way. This is not the way things should be. Your husband did an evil thing and the repercussions will last throught your children's lives. You are sad because you can't undo it. You are sad because you can't prevent this from hurting your kids.
But...you can choose to love and live with joyful passion. There is cruxifiction, but there is resurrection. Practice resurrection. I believe you have been doing that. Keep it up.
But you are here. You are a Divorce Buster. you are one of the good guys. You have shown character, kindness and hope. You are a lovely person. You have shown yourself faithful and true. All the guys here would be honored to be with a woman like you, Donna.
