I have to admit you had got me thinking...maybe he is gay. A lot of men can be in denial and try to have a relationship with a woman but it never turns out very well. My aunt is gay and she tried to have a relationship with a man. I think she loved him as much as she could but it just wasn't right for her.
I hope I am wrong for your sake but it would answer a lot of questions.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory