I still need to do some DB'ing when I'm talking to my wife. I learned how to actively listen and use it as often as possible. I'm not a saint and when I started the R talks things got scary. This where I wasn't very nice.
I can't tell you how many different plans and stradegies I tried to build an R with her. What I can tell is somethings worked and others well worked until she caught on what I was doing.
This accountability is the last thing and maybe even the final method of working on my R.
I'm a heavy sleeper, so trying to wake me up in the morning isn't easy. My w tried a few times and didn't get anywhere. I ask her to wake me up when she's home after a late evening but she refuses to. Possibly with this new approach it may happen but I won't ask for a while.
