Is this the end of my marriage?

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Remember, most wayward spouses -- and nearly all wayward women -- like to have a "soft place to land." A backup plan. So just don't interpret her lack of action as a sign of genuine remorse, professed love for you (although I do think she still loves you), or anything else that would make you go "A-HA!"

I'm not at all. I actually see her lack of action as a financial gain for her. See previous posts but if it's dragged on past next July she will gain financially. If before then she doesn't gain at all. It will also cost her to file for divorce. If I do it, it costs me.

It could be nothing more than "plate-spinning." (You know, like that guy on the old Ed Sullivan Show or Bozo's Circus that would keep all those plates spinning on the sticks. Right now, FOR WHATEVER REASON, your wife is trying to keep both of her plates spinning (you and OM), or else she would have filed.)

I am trying desperately to take my plate away. As I said though I think the lack of filing is financial.

What makes you think she still loves me? That just seems so far away from what everybody else thinks ... and I simply don't know one way or the other.