I've just had a friend around who spoke to my W's friend at the doctors today.
I'm putting this down to get it off my chest. I'm not analysing this at all, except one of them - see the end. I'm looking at it as more script.
Friend told my friend:
1. She doesn't think my W will come back to me. 2. She has met the boyfriend and he's a really nice guy. 3. The boyfriend isn't a boyfriend anymore but just a lodger 4. I was too insecure for my W. 5. I was too insecure when it came to us having children and that if it didn't work out I wouldn't let her take it / them.
My take, again just to get it off my chest:
1. Neither do I, but I continue anyway. 2. Can't comment as never actually met him. 3. OH COME ON! How stupid do they think I actually am?!?! 4. Correct. I have now been vindicated as to why I was insecure about our marriage but still it's not a nice trait to have so 100% correct. I am trying to change that but still incredibly insecure. 5. 100% correct - I fought for 7 years to see my daughter and she knew that was one of the reservations I had - that it would happen again with us and I would need to fight again.
The only one that I am analysing is why tell me the boyfriend is just a lodger?!?!!? Makes absolutely no sense ... I should try and accept it as more script and stop reading into it. Everybody knows he's the boyfriend as she's told them!?!?!?!?!?
Otherwise this is script, gossip and nonsense.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"