Quotes found on Divorcebusting (II)

[Ready2Change]

You do NOT need to tell your kids that you agree with this, and in fact, you shouldn't. "Your mother and I disagree, I do not want a divorce right now, but I accept her decision and we both still love you very much" -- something like that.

I absolutely think you should find out what she told them, but I wouldn't ask leading questions. Just "what did she tell you?", and then listen to what they say. Do not lie to cover up her affair. In difficult times like this for children, they need to know that at least ONE parent will always tell them the truth.