? for people who have gone to Retrouvaille

[Deep]

Of course at times I did feel resentful, and disappointed. It was like you're pouring your heart out and your spouse could not really be bothered. And yes I did snap at her for lack of effort when my patience slipped.

In the end, we communicated the way she felt most comfortable in and made the most of it. Dialogue is a tool, how you use it (if in the usual format at all) depends on both of you. But that should not mean you give up - you do get results depending on what you put in over time.

As a 2 cents worth, any effort from a WAS is worth acknowledging and encouraging. He went for the weekend and is trying to be positive - reinforcing that may not be the worst idea.