How are things going? Is your daughter still reaching out to you?
I'm thinking of you and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Yes, she is reaching out, however, I have found she's not the same. Half the time I can't understand her, for she speaks so quickly, her voice becomes soft, and hard to hear. I can't seem to follow her train of thought, while she is talking so rapidly. If I ask her to slow down, she becomes irritable, as I appologize for asking her to slow down, she becomes defensive.
At one point in one conversation, she started to blame me for her Father's unhappiness, and she blamed me for her Step Mother not having her own kids with her.... so she wouldn't be alone..... and I thought, mind you didn't say a word, but I thought, now if that isn't directly out of your Father's mouth....
She also talks about her life here being ruined, and why she couldn't come back. She said something about me telling that I don't want to see her again.... I told her I didn't recall saying those words, however, I am sorry if that was what I had said, for she was my daughter, and I always want her.
So, I'm once again, sitting on egg shells, only beginning to wonder what the h@ll is going on out there, and can only imagine the worst. I know she has argued with her friend here, broke off the relationship she had with the boy out there, and there's no telling what else is going on....
All I do know, she isn't the same, and like I said, I've allowed my imagination to run abit, and the answers I come up with aren't very good. I don't know what I should do....
Teens do go through many changes, even in families that are together. So, I wouldn't worry too much. They are almost like MLCers.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
BeingMe has hit it on the nail head. She's going through her own identity crisis right now and trying to find her wings. Also, you don't know just how much brain washing has been going on out there either. Leave her be. She'll come to you when she's ready to talk. Validate her feelings and love her from afar. I know it's difficult, but you have got to allow her to spread her wings a bit and one day soon, your little bird will return to the nest in your home.
Take care of yourself. Keep the focus on you for now and get yourself back up on your feet.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Oh, I know there's been a lot of brainwashing going on, Dick MUST have conformity, just as it was when he was growing up. Everyone must be on the same page, will believe the same thing, will do as he says. D will have to believe in everything he says, otherwise, she'd end up like S... Dick has discarded him, and refuses to support him.
I have stepped back, sitting quietly, in prayer. There's not a whole lot I can do for now.
Get back on my feet? I'd be happy with just getting on my knees.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Uhm, stumble, fall, laugh, roll over and try again!
Quiet on all fronts..... weird but true.
I start my new job on Monday. Heck, I haven't even seen my first unemployment check yet!!!!!
I've lighten the load, had to sell things to have enough money to get through... but I sold everything that was Dick's that he left behind...LOL The old me would have somehow sent it back to him.... the new me said he didn't deserve the effort.
Now, I'm sure there's somebody out there that has had a problem with thier teenage child's boy or girlfriend and can give me some advice.
My Son's girlfriend is keeping my son rather busy, ahh, too busy to come and have dinner.... well, he is old enough to say I'm going with or without you, but it seems she's stiring things up a bit....
I tried to talk to her, just talk, and got the strangest chill down my spine... now out of context, but you'll see what I mean:
I said "You just don't have the life experience to understand what I'm feeling...."
She said "Stop calling me stupid, I know what life is about."
She is 17, and as we all did, she knows it all.... ya, I get that.... however, she then called my son and told him I wouldn't quit calling her stupid...
I haven't heard from my son since.....
I feel it's the same lesson only dressed up differently. Of course, I'd feel this way.
What am I doing about it? The only thing I know is safe.... sitting quietly.
Any advice?
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
