Magnificent

[MichelleLT]

Wow. That was a strange text. I am proud of you from refraining from commenting on it.

Although, if you had sent that to me, I would have laughed out loud.

You are loved my dear. You have your family and friends. And we would notice you hadn't been posting!

[Reincarnated]

Mish...
It looks like Gabe was trying to "agree" with you that she is a witch - I would just pity him and then not think about it anymore. She must be very special for him to think of her that way - I mean, I would be hugely pissed if my partner had sent that "joke" about me - and he sent it to his ex!

Now, about you, my friend. Your mom seems to be in the position she is in due to some of her own personality (you have mentioned before how she can be demanding and controlling, etc.). It doesn't sound like she has many, or any, friends.

YOU DO!! You are not her. And even she has her daughter (and you will always have Marc).

I can imagine how scary it was to be alone with your mom while she fell. I cared for my grandmother-in-law for 6 months, and know the dead weight thing. Also my mom. That is why I had urged you to try to find some help from Visiting Nurses, or maybe even hospice at this point. Someone at the hospital where she gets her dialysis might be able to help. I know that she doesn't like the idea of having a "stranger" come and help, but she is going to have to get over that! It is simply not fair to you.

((((hugs))))

[dday101798]

Of course, there's nothing I could send him that would add salt in any wound....he doesn't have any. He's happy has a freakin' clam and totally oblivious.

I wouldn't be so certain about that.

[mishka422]

Which part D? The happy as a freakin' clam or totally oblivious? I'm quite sure he is both.

Last day off today then it's both jobs for the next several days. Ick! It sure was nice to have down time though.

Mom wasn't doing good this morning. Had to get her into a wheelchair to get her in to dialysis. She couldn't walk.

Now more than ever I'm determined to change my lifestyle. If I could just stop eating all together and live on protein shakes and fruit I might have a shot. Actually my 2 cousis and I sat down together Saturday night and put together a menu plan that is specifically made for renal patients. I need to empty out my pantries and start over but I can't bring myself to divest of perfectly good food. I really can't afford to give it all to the food pantry either. I'm thinking I'll go through half of it and give it to them and not worry about not having enough in the house. I do really need to get on this eating plan and hopefully reduce my odds of ending up like my mother.

[BobbiJo]

How odd for him to send you those texts. I remember Jennifer Aniston commenting, while going through the D with Brad Pitt, "His sensitivity chip is missing". Sounds like the same thing here...

If I was living with a guy who was divorced (just hypothetical!) and I found out he sent a text to the ex implying I was a witch..... Yeah doesn't sound like he is so content.

Good luck on the new eating plan. I hope it works well for you. As for your mom, I know my grandma did the same kind of things with my mom. Any time my mom had plans out of town, my grandma would have a 'bad' weekend or some kind of 'incident'. It seemed hateful to think they were connected, but it happened ALL the time...

The last year of her life she got stuck in the bathtub and could not get out three times. My aunt lived with her but could not lift her so they literally called the fire department each time to get her out...I know it is hard to deal with but you are doing well. Glad you still had plans for the weekend.

And congrats to Marc on his testing!

[kat727]

Maybe you could still use the food in your pantry but put healthier side dishes with the main course. I think it would be easier to replace your current meals gradually with the healthier ones. Then you won't feel deprived.

I remember when my great grandmother was becoming ill. Several times she said she couldn't get into bed. My grandmother was really tiny, about 5ft and weighed maybe 100 lbs, and couldn't lift her even with my brother and I helping(we really weren't any bigger than my grandmother!) So my grandmother in frustration would say she would have to call an ambulance and maybe have her go to the hospital because she couldn't lift her. Well upon hearing that, great grandmother hopped up and got into bed! She really was sick but sometimes with that little nudge she was more able to help herself.

kat

[Kalni]

He was actually feeling he was connecting with you. NOTHING to do with rubbing your face in his happiness. Too complicated thought for Gabe. He is trying to ease up the tense between you.

I would answer with that LOL if I wanted more from him. I would ignore it if I didnt.
xxx
K

[MichelleLT]

Love kat's idea about the food. It's cheaper that way as well as slowly wearing off some of the foods you will miss.

I also vote you look into having someone come by the house occasionally to help out. If your mom didn't have you, she'd have to have someone come, so she should be grateful she has you as much as she does and accept that you need a day off too. Knowing that she won't accept it easily, you are going to have to do some boundary setting and maybe confront her about it.

Glad you enjoyed your days off. I'm jealous lol. I am also working both jobs Thursday and Friday, ugh. Once I buy this house though, goodbye to second job hopefully.

[mishka422]

Oh Michelle....I hope you get to get rid of that other job. It's such misery. Between two jobs and Marc and mom I don't do much of anything. I'm just too tired.

For those of you inclined to pray, please pray for my mom. She is not doing well at all and I'm taking her to see a neurologist today...actually right now! Gotta go! I'll write more when I get back.

[kat727]

I pray that your Mom will be ok. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

hugs, kat