Although she denied the PA, she certainly did not deny the EA.
Originally Posted By: shellshockedga
Now, back to the OM's W. During our fight today I told her that the OM's W desrved to know that he was having an affair. She begged for me not to call and talk to her. ... So, her response was "well if you call OM's W" then everything is off the table.
thats a whole hell of alot of concern for just an inappropriate friendship.
SMQ, thanks for joining the thread. Glad to hear your thoughts. As you know when you are inside the forest its hard to see the trees. BUt it seems as though it is defintely more than an inappropriate relationship. Now the work begins and I have figure out what to do. Based on the above advice, I assume I just sit tight and do nothing for a few days. I have to see the W at a school sports event this afternoon. So I will limit any conversatino only to that which deals with my kids.
Then to decide if there is anything to be gained from contacting other W. I know each person has a different take on that one.
ME 41, Her 41 M 18.5 years T 19.5 years s - 12, 10 Bomb 7/12/09 Inhouse Seperation 7/13/09 - 10/1/09 She moved out 10/1/09 - present
In the next 24-48 hours, your wife is highly likely to ask you two things:
1. "What are you going to DO???" (regarding exposure)
2. "How are you?" (overall temperature check. This could either be genuine guilt and concern for you, or it could be self-serving, but they almost always ask.)
Your answers should be some version of:
1. "I have some decisions to make." or "I'm not sure yet, I have some decisions to make."
2. "Surprisingly well, thanks." or "Considering all that's happened, I'm actually OK."
You emphatically do NOT owe her ANY answers on the 1st one, btw, and if she presses you, there's nothing wrong with telling her just that.
