I hope down the road in the not too distant future, you two can get to Retrovaille. It's a very good thing and a surprisingly helpful experience. I cannot recommend it highly enough, and we've done other wonderful workshops in the past but they were based on a happier m at the time. Retrovaille was just what we needed. Wish we had gone earlier. But truly, better late than never.
((( j )))
J,
Thank you for your posts, I very much appreciate them. I did look into Retrovaille, the next one that would be available to us is in January. A little wrinkle in going to Retrovaille is that my W grew up in a Seventh Day Adventist church that didn't speak highly of the Catholic Church (you can Google it if you need to know more). I don't know how much it would bother her now, but it is in the back of my mind. So given that the next opportunity isn't until January anyway, I figured I can wait a little on this.
As for OM, I talked to his W a couple of months ago. She said that he was not abusive (physically or mentally). My W did not say that she was afraid for her safety at all; she mentioned it as more of an annoyance than anything. But given all of your concerns, I will bring it up again with her tonight to see if it is still a problem.
I don't know if HR can do much. They are in 2 different agencies now. She moved to another agency about a year ago. They still had contact though because these to Social Service agencies work closely together (he is COO of one, she is a Director at the other). As I stated before, she has already handed over all of the projects that would have contact with OM to one of her staff. So their should be no need for my W to communicate with OM now.
