Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

[quote=P17]
She likely was using her day with you as a sort of a "test," to measure her feelings (or lack thereof) at the moment for you, which is very much "script." And she likely walked away from it with a "See? He just doesn't understand me" view.

Sorry for the 2x4s, but that's how I see it.

Puppy

PDT,

The advice I'm getting from here, the books and from elsewhere is confusing me. I am TRYING not to overanalyse it but I am still doing some of it. I am TRYING to accept the day for what it was. I'm not very good at this at the moment, but I'm TRYING.

I didn't ask my W about her day as that was the advice on doing a 180 or LRT. I always asked her about her day and was understanding, compassionate and a good listener. That wasn't working. I was trying to keep things simple, basic and no talk like that. Maybe I've mis-read it but that's what I thought I was doing. I was trying to distance myself from that and just being there with my D and her.

One thing I am good at is listening.

The groping in the pool was unintentional, most of it. It was the game we were playing.

I also thought I was doing my own thing and not looking for her reaction. I thought I was doing my own thing but noticing her reaction - that is different from looking for it.

I don't think I can actually do this. It just seems no matter what I do (from advice, books etc.) it just seems to be the wrong thing and is probably pushing my W farther and farther away.

I thought about today of dropping her a text saying I was sorry for nearly drowning her yesterday, twice and for being a little quiet as I was very tired (which I was). Again, I thought NC so I couldn't send it.

My only solution to my situation is to stop all contact with her and my D completely.