Is this the end of my marriage?

[dday101798]

I am trying very very hard not to overanalyse this.

Hi P,

Please do try not to over analyse this. I had a 'simlilar' moment a little over a year ago. 'Our' house was the place for gatherings. A mutual friend was turning a symbolic age, so I and a few other mutual friends opted to throw a birthday party. Of course a few of said friends said it wouldn't be right if my (then W) was not in attendance.

She did show, and I tell you to this day I can't get certain looks and comments she made out of my head. Everyone said it was like "old times". I spent all day on the grill and in the kitchen (especially assuming some of Xw's former duties), and XW made sure everybody was taken care of.

I remember clear as day everytime I would look up, Xw was gleaming at me with her eyes dancing away. As I finished up the last round of stuff on the grill, she was right behind me coming out of the house with that very same look you describe as your W left, saying it was time for her to go, but "it was nice" and even the pasta salad I made that she would normally do was better than hers ever was, "someone must have trained you well" followed by this foxish smirk.

And then she was gone. off to OM.

Why did I share this with you?

Because I overanalyzed the hell out of it, and consequently still do to this day now some 13 months and divorced later, it still clangs around in my head. Thus, spare yourself, take it for what it is and move along. Don't be sitting as me 13 months later and still recanting it, you'll get nowhere in the over all goal of things.