Jon, well put!.. I too read your post and wondered if you haven’t forgiven him yet? I went into the renconciliation from the position of already forgiving him (you do have a lot to forgive though hey!). And you should value yourself and not keep assuming she is a threat to you now (I really don’t think she is K, he ended it to come back to YOU and he's been pretty decisive about that now after previously vacilating). I didn’t feel any threat from Helen once he ended it and said he wanted back 10 days later. I too valued the importance of sex and it was a matter of pride even, that we restarted our sexual R as soon as possible!..and I agree with Jon, yes, wow, it was some of the best sex we ever had in those early weeks of reconciliation! I saw it as the glue that would cement us getting back together. Without it… you are just friends.
Perhaps you feel like holding him at arms length a bit still, in all ways, to protect yourself?? Maybe its healthy to make him wait a little, considering? I really feel the worst is over for us now though. And lastly, like Jon..I miss our IM chats too !!!
I really hope the news on your Dad is good news today K. xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
