? for people who have gone to Retrouvaille

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I think it's great that both of you did make it to the weekend. I hope you make it through the posts and beyond. They are in some ways more important than the actual weekend.

As for your experience, although my W would have been one of those that were obviously affected during the weekend, she didn't do everything there the way it was "supposed to be". I was writing tons and she struggled to string more than 3 sentences together sometimes. We certainly did not do many of the things we were supposed to use as tools both during and after. One has to learn and adapt to make it as comfortable as reasonable for the WAS.

And at times after that, I felt resentful that it seemed I had to drag her for the posts and to open up for the first CORE.

In the end, it worked wonders for us. Like I posted earlier, I wouldn't call it a magic bullet against divorce, but I honestly don't know where my M would be today if we had not gone through it.

Wishing you strength and everything good as you work at saving your M.