Hi AK Gal and Cindy,
You two are right. He can definitely handle things better when I am in better control of my emo's. I've also noticed that if my emo's are better for awhile, that he starts to share his! Jackpot!!

I know that I need to be strong, and yes, handle HIM with care. But I know that he cares. I've also learned that if I can say what is wrong very directly and within one or two sentences that he can handle it much better and offer some comfort. He is very scarred from the outrages that I have had and gets that stimulus-response to raise the walls as soon as he sees tears. I know in time, he will learn to trust that I won't barrage him.

Thanks for your support. I can't tell you how much the BB has meant to me and helped me!!
love, karen