Seems to me your h feels less pressure on how to behave when you are in control of your emotions. He may just feel unsure on how to react when you cry or whatever. He feels like he has to do something but is not sure what. Next time you cry maybe you should just say 'I don't need you to fix anything for me just hold me'. That way the pressure is off him on how to 'fix' you.
I'm sorry you are having to deal with health problems. But as long as you have a diagnosis then you have something to work off and not have to wonder what is wrong with you. Check out webmd.com for info on your ailments. Some solutions may be available there.
Keep your chin up girl. You are learning lots about yourself and doing some great changes. Try not to let his actions effect how you will behave. Detach from what he does and says that is hurtful, don't read into his comments. You only give him power when you do that.
