Well, she seems to open up when we are intimate, unlike the barrier wall she puts up other times. Crap, so if I want to try to get her back, no sex. She says that she thinks that things will go back to normal if she gave me another chance. If I dont spend time with her, how can I show her I am a changed man? This is a classic case of WAWS.
If she is involved in an affair, what she's selling right now is NOT honesty. It's confused, gaslighting fogspeak at best, and deception at worst.