I have a situation I need help with ASAP!! D10 was talking to XH and told him "if you really loved me you would move here and live by me", he said "but my job is here" and she said "you work from home so you can move here and if you loved me you would", he again said, "my job is here".
As we all know MLCer's blame everything on us, and he tells me all the time that I make the kids feel the way they do, I put the words into their head, they feel like I do because I tell them too. This is, of course, not the truth. They know too much, and that is a shame, but a fact. I never told her to say that or wanted her to say that. So, should I send XH a text or e-mail telling me she told me what she said to him and I want him to know it didn't come from me?? I told her to please not say those things to him anymore, that it only upsets him and we don't want to do that, but that she can tell him she misses him and wishes she saw him more. She has to be able to share her feelings with him. But, I want to make it clear to him it is not coming from me, but I feel like even if I tell him, he will think what he wants and it won't change anything so why bother? I have gone dark on him for 2 months and it changed nothing. So, I don't really know what the right thing to do is??? Any ideas or help?
Me-39 XH-42 M- 17 1/2 yrs D-16, S-14, D-10 MLC- started 10/06 OW discovered-7/07 seperated-9/07 back together- 12/07 moves out again-7/08 D final-5/09 find out he was with OW the whole time btwn 1/08 to now -9/09
Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
