Feel like giving up

[ClingingToHope]

Your situation is eerily similar to mine. The timelines are different, but I heard all of the same things. I ended up moving out at her request on Mother's Day and am rebuilding my life while trying to remain an every day presence in the lives of my daughters.

I know the DB principals but haven't followed them very well. I've asked on four occasions in the first five months to go to counseling. She turned me down every time, each time more emphatically than the one before.

So now I'm treating the M as dead and gone and doing my best to move on without her. Everything else hasn't helped.

Just follow the rules -- don't pursue. I haven't done it and am trying it now. And be ready for a long haul. Dia, a contributor on this site, is a former WAW who was separated for two years before deciding to recommit to her marriage. It takes a long time. I haven't had the patience necessary.