Sorry you find yourself here but you will get a lot of good advice from people who have a lot of experience with this. I am a newbie but I have read a lot of advice from other sitches that apply to your quote below:
Originally Posted By: stardust
She has stated that she does not love me, she never will, she does not like who she is with me, we are not right for each other, etc.,
This appears to be WAW script and a lot of folks here say believe nothing they say and only half of what they do.
Originally Posted By: stardust
She puts so little effort that sometimes I feel I really want to save my marriage but feel like I am the only one working at it and wonder if it can work if she continues to focus her energy on her relationships with her exes. How do I stay hopeful and help her gain a more realistic long-term perspective?
Remember that with most WAS sitches, the LBS is the only one who is working on the M, the WAS already believe that they are done with M. The bulk of the work will be on you but you have already shown that you are strong by wanting to work on M and by seeking advice on this forum. I am still new and making lots of mistakes but one thing I do know is this will be a long haul process and that it is going to be challenging. Your hope will ebb and flow, sometimes hour by hour, but just try to stay strong and know that there are a lot of others going through this with you.
