Quote: i get mad in my head and think that if he doesn't want to be with me or put effort into our R, then why is he with me?
Believe what they DO, not what they say! You're putting WAY too much importance on what he says to other guys. Can you imagine the response he'd get from most guys if he told the truth? They'd say he was whipped! It's a guy thing, don't let it get to you.
Quote: I'm jealous b/c he always seems to have fun with his friends, but with me, it feels lame
You're right, you need to do some 180's and make things more exciting. The game idea was a good start - did H seem to enjoy it? What else could you do to kick it up a notch?
Quote: I'm trying to maintain. I am going to watch a movie at my friend's, but will be home probably 9:30ish. H will be out until 1 or so
Do NOT - under any circumstances - come home before he does. Period. End of sentence. He needs to think you were out there having more fun than he was if he's going to want to spend more time with you. And if he gets a little worried about what you could be doing, all the better (my H actually told me once it was GOOD that he worried about what I was doing). If you can't think of anything fun to do until 2 in the morning, then just pretend (but realize you have a PROBLEM if you can't have fun until 2 A.M. even though your marriage depends on it!!!!)
And how about some more 180's - the more you do the unexpected, the more intrigued your H will be. New perfume, sexy undies, new bedsheets (just got some 480 thread-count - heaven!!) new sports, fun outings, whatever - change anything you can, no matter how small.
