...Robx, I cringed when I read your response to breakaway some time ago when she discussed her abusive h. You challenged her so forcefully it made me wonder if you thought she was lying or deserved it as you implied both...and without any need, in my opinion. Then when she painstakingly answered you in almost a point by point rebuttal, which basically proved your error but instead of apologizing like anyone else would have, you persisted! Tell me that's not personal...on the contrary, there is an intentionally personal angle to this that's odd, and pretty bullying of you. You have showed that to me & other women who dare to disagree with you. Then you pretend "it's all good" when a man calls you on it, but it is not. It's offensive and seems...punitive. I do hope your own sitch improves so that you will be reconciled with your w, but in the meantime I sense a tremendous amount of projection going on here. I know this will trigger a nasty personal attack but someone has to stand up to you other than breakaway and tell you to stop making this all about punishing, (especially punishing women). We are not all shrews who need discipline or idiots who need manipulation.
25 I agree with you, Tristan's thread isn't for this.
As for breakaway, if her husband was truly abusive, her answer should be clear as to what she should do, she should leave him. There is no personal attack on her or you, I think you both are "projecting". If having an opinion is considered a personal attack well I'm sorry if I don't agree with that. I have re-read those original posts and maybe I'm just not seeing the fuss you're making, point it out to me if you have to, I'm not a mind reader, never will be. Apologizing for something that I don't think I did wrong just for the sake of apologizing just isn't right. Breakaway doesn't have to explain herself to me, and I don't have to explain to her, I don't know why you continue to bring this up 25yearsmlc. I would rather be honest than tell a lie and be deceitful. We also know that on this site, alot of WAS's rewrite history and I've even read posts by breakaway herself where she says her husband thinks she is crazy and blowing things out of proportion. 25 you are over generalizing, quote me on something that I said in regards to something breakaway said and call me on my hurtful words, explain to me what I've said wrong, I don't see it and if you can show it to me and explain it to me so that I can see my errors, I'll gladly apologize if I've truly been wrong about what I said.
As for what I said to breakaway about the legal issue, she said and I'll quote that "no matter what she did", you can't make a blanket statement and say that a person will get off without any issues no matter what she did? It's not true. To further complicate things, say they go to court, what if the OM knows about her mental issues and brings that up, wouldn't it be possible for him to turn this around and on top of that seek punitive damages from her - see the word I used "possible". We don't live in a perfect world, if we did, we wouldn't need sites like divorcebusting.com among others, there would no affairs, marriages would be perfect, everyone would be honest, loving & caring but we all know that this isn't how things play out in the real world - I could tell you I'm a lawyer (I'm not) but how could you verify that, how can I verify what you know? I can't either, making grandiose statements about what would happen in a court of law is really just text on a website page.
Let's allow this thread to focus on tristan and his issues, stop making this about me, it's not necessary. Please & thank you.
