I was about to dissect your post line by line but remembered that somebody does that "work" way better than I do. Of course if you were not so busy climbing the corporate ladder at work, our 15 minute morning chat (that I miss horribly incidentally) would have covered the issues....but I digress. I remember when I was piecing (seems like a lifetime ago) I did not have the thoughts that you are having. I am not sure if that is becasue you saw and read so much of their interactions, or maybe you have not really forgiven him or that I am just an idiot. To me their relationship (my ex and Pedro the doorman) was meaningless....unsustainable if you will. Not sure what the 75% means other than maybe your heart is not into it like it should be....I was probably the other way around (75% heart and 25% mind). So maybe you have things right...the future will tell. I found your reference to the OW as a "threat" to be very disconcerting (sh!t am I dissecting?...). Not sure that your demand (whatever it is) will put an end to that threat in your mind. Not sure what to make of all that...other than to say that you need to have confidence in who you are and what you have to offer and perhaps that threat will dissipate? I never really felt threatened. Another difference is the SEX. Don't want to harp on this one at the risk of having others say it is bullsh!t, BUT....what is the deal with the no sex thing (insert the Jerry Seinfeld nasal voice) :-). No, before you say it, it is not all about sex, but makeup sex has to be some of the best sex around! There are tons of positives in your post K and I am really happy for you (alot of differences in how you feel and how i felt and therefore I hope the outcome is also different). Finally, I really hope your dad's results continue to be positive (or negative / you know what I mean). Un grosso abbraccio affetuosissimo......BIG MATS!!!
