New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

Very similar to what I would suggest. As much as I understand not wanting to appear pursuing, you can't not talk to your kids. So either the messages have to be very "calling to talk to the kids, please have them call me" or schedule times. Or some combination of both.

Withdrawal can happen when the WAS is thinking. Oftentimes it is the result of reality not matching up with their expectations. Sometimes it is because you have surprised them. So, give her a chance to process and think, but don't let it interfere with your time with the kids. Especially if you do end up going down the D filing path again, you can't let it affect your communication with the kids.