New here, this is my story...

[ClingingToHope]

I don't know if that option will present itself, but I do want to be prepared if it does. I don't expect it anytime soon, but if it should come, I want to handle it correctly.

If you are happy, show that you are happy. I think a reason a lot of us are in this place is that we didn't act genuinely in the first place.

If she actually asks you to work on the M, she will have been thinking about it a very long time -- I mean it takes a lot to admit you are wrong about something this big -- and I think she'd be hurt if you give her the "OK, whatever."

It comes down to the reasons because I've thought this over as well. My W is going to run into real financial trouble in March. That's when we have to start paying for summer camps for the kids. She normally gets a fat bonus, but in this economy her company has cancelled all bonuses. That always bailed her out of winter bills.

By then it will be close to a year out of the house. If my W came to me and said she can't make it financially so we should discuss working on the M, I think I'd turn her down. I only want her back if she misses me as a husband not as a provider and co-habitant cleaner/child rearer.