Thanks for the reply's. I need to let her be responsible for her. I just was always a jerk in the past and didn't want to come off as being neglectful.
I was in a catch22 when booking the trip a couple of months ago we didn't have alot of money for her to go. if I didn't use points and she would have went ahead and booked the trip anyway. We wouldn't had the money to pay certain bills. So i booked the trip since I had to use points and miles that were under my name. Remeber she is home alone with the kids 10-12 nights a month because of my travel schedule. Those points belong to her just as much as me.
But, because she is wayward I think you are all trying to tell me to stop and let her take care of her. If she needs space, give her space, all of it. I'm struggling with that. Jerkish behaviors versus being the caretaker.
I need to refocus on me and start saving up for an attorney. I don't want to divorce. But if thats what she wants should I give it to her.
JJ
WOW! Did you read that part, she would have went anyways even if you guys didn't have the money and you wouldn't be able to pay the bills - so you think enabling that behavior is scoring you any points with her? She is pretty much admitting, "I'm a spoiled brat, I'm going to do what I want, you figure out how to make it work and pay for it".
I don't care if she's home with the kids 10-12 days a month or 20-30 days a month - she wasn't forced to have kids, they didn't choose to be born, once you're a parent, you're a parent for life and I'm not going to feel bad for any mother or father out there, I feel bad for the kids that there are parents out there that view them as a burden instead of a gift.
