but really I just want to be loved and taken care of, which I don't know if he will ever be able to do, which scares me because I will ahve to start over after 10 years, and have no where to start looking.
I second the above post. It sounds like you are a teacher. You should have plenty of friends then who are still single to hang out with. It sucks having to go back out there when you thought those days are over -- try being a 40-year-old guy hanging with his late 20s, early 30s coworkers and their girlfriends.
And that is still down the road a bit. A little bit of tough love may get him back on your terms. That's what you really need here, him back on your terms -- then you can figure out how to meet him in the middle.
It sounds like he has everyone wrapped around his finger from you, to his parents, to the OW. He needs a reality check and that would be you telling him to shape up or stay away and then heading back to see the L.
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