Hoping WAW will someday see through the fog....

[shellshockedga]

PDT, thanks for stopping by. Today has been a very interesting one and really points to your specialty. Unfortunately I uncovered evidence that W is having an EA (maybe PA?) with OM. Now because you never know who will read this, I am not going to say how , from who or in what from I discovered. But it is enough to make me feel comfortable that something very inapprorpiate is going on.

I was not going to mention it today and wait to discuss with L, but she began a fight which ended up morphing into me telling her that I knew she was having the affair. Although she denied the PA, she certainly did not deny the EA. She did say I had no idea what I was talking about etc... Sorry hun, the evidence points the other way. Now it is also interesting to note that the OM is going through a D with his W. It must not be pretty. More on that in a minute.

She then went on to state that she had the divorce papers already drawn up ready for her signature and to file. I was a little shocked by this, but recovered and said she had to to what she ahd to do. I did say that I felt this was not in the best interest of our children and that certainly this was not what God wanted her to do (she claims she is religous but it seems to only extend to those times when it fits her needs)

Now, back to the OM's W. During our fight today I told her that the OM's W desrved to know that he was having an affair. She begged for me not to call and talk to her. I said I wanted her to leave her attorney, stop the filing and begin working on the marriage. That she would also have to provide full transparency regading phones, FB, emails etc.. That I would not play 2nd to anyone. That I deserved better than that.

So, her response was "well if you call OM's W" then everything is off the table. I said OK. I can handle if you do your end. So we shall see what she does.

My guess, she says screw it and she files. At which time I will then have to follow up on my end. So sad. She doesnt seem to realize that she is also potentialy ruining their marriage as well. The OMs W has a S by another M. This will be the child's second divorce what a mess.

Other alternatives include trying to keep me and OM (so I can pay the bills and she can have fun - not an alternative for me) or for her to realize the utter sh^T storm that she is about to create and come back and agree to the above. I wont go down without a fight. But I won't play dirty.

My boys are the most important thing to me. It is my hope that someday they will look at me and respect any decisions that I have made and understand that my goal is to do what would make God happy. Of course, the W has now provided me with enough religous reason to leave, but thats another story.

PDT, what do you think her next move will be? I know that the realization of what happend today will settle in on me soon. Right now, I am feeling very detached from it. Reality won't be pretty. But I just dont want to be choice number 2. And no matter how you slice or dice it, thats how it looks.