* I have already told her mother about the EA, as well as a couple of other close friends; part of my misguided attempts to pursue. None of them have talked to her about it -- my wife would flip if she knew I told her mom! -- but her mother will certainly be keeping a watchful eye out while she is here. * Her mother is definitely supportive of the marriage. She saw warning signs before either of us did; I wish she'd told us then! * I have put the Love Dare approach on hold, if for no other reason than some of the coming "dares" would be impossible to complete with her in recovery.
LOL!
Do you see what your role in all of this has been reduced to? You are helping her maintain her secret affair - that is ridiculous!
She is having an affair with another man and you are helping her keep her secret for fear that she will flip out?!
Are you serious?
Did I just read this correctly?
Here is some basic info on affairs: - the excitement derived from said affairs only exists due to it's secrecy, once it's out in the open, alot of the excitement will vanish.
Expose it!
She has no right or expectation to trust you with this secret. You had a right to trust her not to have an affair, when she crossed that boundary, she destroyed your trust.
Put your foot down, set some boundaries, establish some self-respect and she will respect you and believe me, she will get over you exposing her & her secret, she knows she has no right to expect anything from you anymore - if you continue to go along with this, you might as well offer to videotape them while they're having sex and charge them a reasonable rate for your helpful & trustworthy service.
First 2x4 for you on this.
Your story didn't begin with a twist, pretty much sounds like most every other story on this site, don't kid yourself thinking your situation is unique.
Everything you will do to turn this situation around is counter-intuitive.
Buying her gifts and being nice to her isn't going to fix this, so you can stop now, it's in your best interest to do so.
