Oh, no she freakin' didn't! She is getting me mighty angry. S, try to remember you are dealing with an unbalanced child here. Actually, two unbalanced children.
Ok, you know you cannot trust him at all. She isnt mistreating them, right? So, I think you have to let this go a bit.
You have handled this with dignity and compassion. Dont let them get to you. Thats what they are trying to do.
Me, on the other hand, I have nothing to lose - LOL!
I know they are and I know I'm going to have to somehow let it go. It just floors me. That bitch needs to back the hell off of my kids. She is a WHOLE 9 years older than my son. Then he calls me and says if I would just take him back than I none of this would happen. I cussed him out. I can't even type right now. My thoughts are incoherent. I gotta get a grip.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
HA!! Thanks FG! I will not go toward the light!!! (of the Jerry Springer Show set...) lmao. I am not nearly trashy enough or pregnant by 3 possible different guys or any of the qualifications for that. : )
Ahhhhh I am better now. I can think and type coherently. LOL
Appearantly I am not the only one who got messages from her AND she put stuff on her myspace, so ex had his Aunt (who is his attorneys best friend that's how he got his attorney) and several other people calling his mom last night saying that he needed to put a stop to that nonsense.
His mom called this morning about something for S's baseball game today. She told me that after everybody was calling last night he had looked at her ms he called og and they had a huge fight. Also, according to his mom and brother (when she called me this morning) he told her not to make her choose sides between her and me by using the kids or disrespecting me, because she would always lose. Anyway, doesn't mean a flipping thing but it is too freaking funny that she would put up with that kind of treatment and still hang on. LOL
Anyhoo, I will not go to the Jerry show with them, I'm just gonna sit back and watch it. They are destined to self destruct. I do have to say though that I am a very laid back and generally happy person and she is one of the very few people that I have just wanted to beat her ass. NOT because she is with ex, because of how immature and flat out disrespectful she is. And of course he's on that short list too.
He did call and apologize to me for her disrespecting me like that, but he has done that numerous times in the past and it doesn't mean anything. At least he bothers to do that I guess.
Anyway, about to be off to baseball. Gotta stop and get S a new underarmor shirt to wear. It's pretty cool today. Due to rainouts we will be playing "fall" soccer and baseball well into Nov. now. lol. A fun little "family" day with me, kids, and ex. Two games in a row and we will have to feed them in between. MAY THE FORCE BE WITH ME.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Well hope everybody is having a good evening. Today was okay. Two games in a row, so spent almost the whole day with kids and exH. Kids were good, ex was fine. He went out of his way to be nice to me. Funny since I let him have it last night.
This is a learning process for us. Just like this whole journey has been a growing, learning process. We knew how to be a married couple for 12 years, and now the dynamic is very different, yet that undertone of how it used to be is still there too. Of course it's going to be strange and awkward for a while while we kind of learn how to be a divorced couple parenting our kids. After the game the kids wanted ex to take them to mcdonals, so we parted ways and they left. Overall the day was fine.
We talked quite a bit and he "seems" to have a plan for his trying to get his life together and his dad is helping him, so all I can do is hope to see a positive outcome for him. I did see "flashes" of his old personality today, so maybe, just maybe, he will fight his way back. Not to me, just closer to his old personality. Who knows.
Funny that even after all that I have been through, in my heart I am pulling for him.
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"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Off to get my hair cut (finally) been putting it off forever cuz the kids have been with me all the time.
S has another soccer game and baseball games almost every night this week. Gonna be a busy one for sure. Trying to walk the line with exH of being civil and detached in a friendly way but not too friendly so he gets to that emotional crazy stage.
He asked me last night if he was welcome to come watch the kids open their gifts on Christmas morning. What do you guys think? My first instinct is to say yes, but I don't wanna send us backwards here.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Reading your thread is sometimes better than a soap-opera!!
I was thinking that in reply to the IM from OW, you could have replied "I'm so glad you and the other kiddies had fun. It's so sweet to see children at play." or something like that.....
As for your X's question about Xmas, it's way too soon to make any commitments there, I think. Just tell him that's still months away and you don't know what your plans will be.....
Take care, sweetie!!!
(((((HUGS)))))
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
Hey Sweetie, just catching up. I have to tell you, you are one class act.
I wouldnt engage with Tinkerbell. It would all be lost on her and way over her head. I could see, though, why you would want to knock her upside her head. I could hold her while you do it - Oops, did I just say that out loud? My bad.
Anyway, this is all a learning process and I have no doubt that you, with your wonderful, easy going manner and sense of humor, will get through it like a champ.
I would tell xh that you need to think about Christmas if you are not sure. See where you both are at them.
And of course, you are pulling for him because that's the kind of person you are.
Thank you ladies! B, thank you so much! And I don't know, it might take both of us to hold her down, we might need SC to help. She looks small up top but her trunk is waaaaaay full of junk.... LMAO!!!!
Comment from son while we are driving today... I don't think dad and og will be together very much longer. I heard them talking and it sounded like you guys. Oh, I don't mean that you are psycho like her mom, I mean it sounds like you guys at the beginning of the end.
OMG, the insights of a 9 year old... LOL
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Well, S has baseball games pretty much every day this week due to all of the rain we have had for the last month. Gonna be another fun filled night. Ex txt me today asking what time the game is, so I guess he's coming. Oh well. He was on his best behavior over the weekend so we will see if that still continues tonight.
Two of my friends from soccer commented on how nice he was over the weekend at the games. Keep in mind that he went MONTHS (actually almost a year) of not talking to any of our old friends and being paranoid that they were always talking about him and staring at him. One of them commented to me that J almost seemed like his old self Saturday. Curious how it's so obvious for other people to notice his behavior. We'll see what's in store for tonight.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
