Not sure of your faith/beliefs however I truly believe we will all get through this...
Thank you for that, Serenity. I am a Christian and posted today on my thread about the annual weekend retreat I've been going to for over 20 years. Kind of bittersweet. Check it out.
Originally Posted By: Serenity13
Yesterday my 14 year old was arrested for trespassing - I can barely type that without crying - I haven't told my H yet - 2 reasons - Fear he really won't care and fear he may think I am not doing a good enough job and take him... What would you do?
Depending on the nature of the trespass, I would go easy on him. Deeply disappointed, what caused you to do such a thing?, etc. He's going through a completely different rough time in your sitch at a tough age. Husband will not be able to take him away. Period. I don't recall all your sitch but I seem to recall that he's not that involved with your boys, right? If so, I would just handle it. Let your son know you're faith in him is shaken and will have to be rebuilt but for now, let's get this done and behind us. I would give him an appropriate punishment/consequence in addition to what the court may give him.
As far as H goes, I wouldn't tell him. If he finds out, I would say, "While certainly wrong, it wasn't major. Clearly he's acting out some of his own pain. He and I handled it. It's water under the bridge now."
For you, Serenity:
"'For I know the plans I have for you', declares the Lord. 'Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future'"
Jeremiah 29:11
Many (((Hugs)))
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
