Thanks so much for your input. Ok, in acknowledging my wrong in my R- I gotta say that I'm notorious for calling it quits/packing H's clothes/kicking him out, etc. All on account of his wrong doings but it was too much and too often. Even before the whole A and child thing I did this, so this is why I know that I can't really take the key back, except for as you said if he stretches this thing out longer. I know I can't show H the same behanior b/c his complaints was that his home is never his home and how do I think he feels when I do that. Then my counter argument was always that he needs to respect his home, both valid arguments but it kept us in a bad cycle. Know what I mean. So that said, I know when I decided to give him the key back I was strong and comfortable in my decision. It's now the wishy washy side of me that's nervous and second guessing it. I did it in hopes that it is a motivator and b/c I do see H making some positive efforts. But then there are times that I feel like he's not doing enough. He likes living the single man's life with no responsibility - so that's the side of me that questions my decision. I'm gonna have to stick to this decision and wait and monitor the results, but I'm so nervous wondering if it was a bad decision. I'll do like you guys say and bring it up and let him know that keeping the key depends on how long he stretche this out. When he got the key he said he's coming back home - but this is his favorite line so that's meaningless. I want to see actions.
Will keep the faith. After all I did say and told hime that I was stepping out on faith. I gotta remember that.
