Sorry, I'm venting, but my standing up for myself today only got me outshouted and hung up on.
Hope, this is NOT why you are sticking up for yourself. You CANNOT control what your H does/says. You are not doing this to obtain a result from him.
You are doing this for YOU, and only YOU. Do what is right for YOU.
If you stick up for yourself, or take any other action for that matter, with an expectation it will make H act/say something, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
Take a few deep breaths, then think about why you are reclaiming control and your self-esteem.
