Pardon me but I'm being awfully nosey tonight and poking my nose in on threads I haven't visited before, so take my 2 cents worth with a grain of salt...
Your response last night to your H NOT meeting your expectations (make up, say he's sorry for his moodiness, not responding to your affection etc.) WAS to banish yourself to another room....NOW, what do you think he lay there alone in bed thinking to himself after that? I doubt he was thinking, "Oh how nice of K to let me have this bed all to myself tonight, now I can lay sideways in it for a change." OR..."Gosh, I love it when K shuts down completely on me in order to punish me for my not being in a communicative mood it makes me feel so loving towards her."
Get the picture? Not a very good cycle of reconciliation going on there. Remember the DB $24,000 question..."Is what I'm about to say OR do going to bring me closer OR push me further away from MY GOAL? What do you think your trip to the quest room accomplish?
Time to regroup, chalk last night's faux pas off to learning and rededicate yourself to 'doing something different.'
And while you're busy praying for God to soften your H's heart towards you, ask him to do the same for your heart towards H.
Now please feel free to throw tomatoes at me, but I offer this advice from having "been there, done that" experience. Hugs 2U T2
