I would agree with it being completely guilt driven. More than once she mentioned she should be doing this or that, but "just didn't feel like it". In the end for me the proof is when teachers, other parents, the principle, or even the bus driver mention how my childrens behavior and grades have improved. I don't care if it is called "over compensation" or whatever...instead of collapsing, my children are flourishing.
For my wife that has to be very hard. Not to say she was a bad mother, because she was a very good mother. I really credit a lot of the improvements on parenting style changes I made. Changes that needed to be made and of course the situation opened my eyes to that.
