Well folks. It's all for nothing. H called me this morning and said he is going to pick up his mom from the hospital this morning meaning he has to work this afternoon and this evening. This means he is going to not pick up S from preschool as originally arranged, and wants to "let us know" if he has time to come tonight to see S. All this week he is playing this game of letting us know with very short notice if and when he's coming over. It's because he wants to take S to his new apt., not be here in the house with him where I feel S5 will feel most secure.
He refuses to stick to our prearranged visitation schedule, and he wants to drop in. Up until now I have been flexible because I want my S to be with dad as much as possible.
This unpredictability is upsetting to S.
On top of this, H says coming over here to be with S "doesn't work for him and I need to propose alternatives or he will just go with his alternative." Then when I try to talk to him about it, and albeit it is extrememly upsetting and emotional to me, he shuts me down, starts calling me crazy and a nut job again, says he refuses to listen and will only tell me how it will be. He says "this is not the time to talk about it" yet he continues to bring up upsetting talks when he immediately has to get off the phone and refuses to set up prearranged times to negotiate these issues.
He has also refused to arrange a time to "talk" about the legal sep agreement and/or hand them over.
Sorry, I'm venting, but my standing up for myself today only got me outshouted and hung up on.
I'm going to not answer his calls or talk to him until I have clear advice from my L if he can take S to his apt. before a legal agreement is settled on.
