Puppy, I understand why all that happened happened. In that sense, I am "compassionate". But I am not convinced that under the "right" circumstances it wont happen again. And seriously, all the pain and hurt he caused to me and our kids while making me feel crazy about my suspicions, bother me much much more than the actual sexual act. I dont know if I can forgive him being so vicious and mean to me, only to hide his affair. I thought he was "man" enough to admit it and just face the consequences. I am struggling with the notion of real forgiveness, bad. I guess, it's a test, for both of us. K
