Positive developments? #2

[jon2911]

At first, I used my "normal" facebook page to friend people here. Then it got complicated, too many people, I was worried about STBXH finding out about this site, etc.

So, I created a second account using my screen name here with the privacy VERY locked down and friended everyone on that. A bit more effort to maintain two accounts, but took some of the stress off. Just an option.

The Bono Hangover would so be worth it though lol.

Dealing with another Bono hangover today. Went to the State Fair Friday and Saturday, got to watch #3 Texas beat Oklahoma, then went to Oklahoma's stadium for U2 on Sunday night. Fun couple days. Just got back to Dallas, time for a nap.

I like that FB strategy actually. I think I'll do that. Keep things separate and more manageable. My actual FB is driving me nuts these days, just had my ex friend me and I don't want to accept it. We both married other people right after dating each other, and W has noticed there's still a "what if" in my mind with this ex. Definitely don't want her as my FB friend. Just going to cool it over there for a while.

[jon2911]

Interesting emotions today. Learned that U2's song "One" was about The Edge's divorce. Gave it a whole different meaning during the show. Did some Wikipedia searching today that confirmed it. Just never made a connection on all this.

Found that there are 3 videos for the song on my U218 DVD, the transvestite version, buffalo version, the restaurant. There's also an extra explaining all three. Watching all of them today, I'm wondering where I stand on all this. We've had good interaction lately. The fair was fun, but not as fun without her, and we have a lot of memories there. I texted her that a bag she bought me got me in the fair for free as they sponsored that day. She responded "your murse? Haha."

These are fun interactions, and some positives are happening. I just wonder if too much time has passed, and too much has happened. Seems to be what the song is talking about as I understand it now. I guess time will tell. The possibility still scares me that we were too different from the beginning, and that 2 1/2 years of trying since separation is for nothing. Maybe I really need to let her go and see what happens from there.

At the Fair on Saturday, they had a horse whisperer, just like in the book. It was absolutely amazing. I got there 20 minutes early, to see him leading a horse into the ring. The horse started going nuts, bucking like I've never seen. He calmly kept her reigned in, and said "I guess the show's starting early".

He explained that she had freaked out for some reason. Probably something with the stirrup. But feeling his calm and experience, and seeing that the other horses didn't go crazy had started to calm her already. "She's a good horse, but she just needs to figure out a few things right now." He worked with her for 45 minutes, watching every muscle twitch and explaining what he was reading. By the end he had a 14-year-old girl volunteer from the crowd riding her. Amazing. I had to wipe away some tears the corner. Such a picture what DBing is like.

[MichelleLT]

Sounds like a great weekend!

That explains why those lyrics always touched me. I used them for a bunch of my thread titles lol. I guess they were more apt than I realized.

[jon2911]

That explains why those lyrics always touched me.

I thought the same thing. Amazing.

Nice text from W this evening, saying that Norah Jones was on Dancing with the Stars tonight. We loved listening (and making out to) her music during our dating. In fact, I had just heard a song of hers at a coffee shop and it reminded me of that.

I'm still working on our taxes, didn't make the October 15th extension deadline, but it looks like we'll get a return! A whopping $4 at this point, but better than the $2,000 we owed before working through the deductions. We're both very apprehensive about it after being audited once already.

Called W about 11:00 and updated her, then talked about the fair for a while. She seemed detached or busy, so I cut the talk short. Even that, though, is progress. Not going to waste my time if she doesn't feel like talking.

I've been thinking a lot about the fair. I had thrown the idea out to her over a month ago, and can tell she'd thought about it ever since. She knew what the most popular foods were this year, and a whole lot of other stuff I didn't even know. I need to plant another seed like that and see what happens. Maybe something to do with the holidays? We spend Thanksgiving and Christmas together last year, but I know that isn't going to happen. I will be in Houston with family anyway for Thanksgiving, so might try and visit while I'm there. That's a ways away though. Any thoughts?

[MichelleLT]

Hmmm maybe work in somehow that you'll be in Houston over Thanksgiving. Then let her mull that over and see what she says? You can always bring it up again if it gets close and she hasn't said anything about it.

Good for you on cutting the call short.

[jon2911]

Yep, lots of holiday talk here on the DB forums, has me thinking about it. I'll probably casually mention it soon. Thanks for the advice Michelle.

[K4D]

Jon, do you live in Austin or Dallas?

Kevin

[jon2911]

Kev,
I'm in Dallas. Hometown is Austin.


Jon

[K4D]

Jon2911,

I live in Addison. Also SoCo, IRMAC, Fightin4mywife, and FaithfulH live in the Dallas area as well. It would be great if we could form a local DB support group here and all meet at dinner sometime.

Let me know your thoughts,

Kevin

[jon2911]

Yes definitely! I'm in the White Rock Lake area, used to work up in Addison.