Follow-up: W has still never mentioned me contacting OMW. Maybe it's over. Maybe they're keeping it "underground" until my W moves out. I just don't know.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Maybe she's one of those "don't want to give him (you) the satisfaction" types.
Usually, an exposed cheater is livid, and you'll feel their wrath. But about 15-20% of the time, I have seen what you're experiencing. I think it's some combination of what you said (still don't want to admit to it/drive it underground) and what I said (don't want to give their betrayed spouse the satisfaction of knowing you've upset them).
I think that there could be another explanation. It's possible that OM has not told your W the truth about what's going on right now. His W may not have said how she knew.
When my H was in the thick of the A, he tried to play both ends against the middle. Telling me that she knew everything about the state of our R, but she knew nothing. When I finally called her, she was completely floored.
Your W may not know what's really going on. Believe me when she does you'll know. Like everyone else said, the anger is intense.
W sent OM another email last night. Thank you, keylogger. Something innocent followed by..."I'm at home so you better not reply. Have a wonderful night!" Plus smiley faces galore.
They're obviously communicating at work only these days...but my W can't help herself & still has to send the occasional email from home.
Now, should I let OM W know about this?
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
