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[Trixi]

Wow, it sounds like you handled yourself really well. I think that showed such strength.

LOL- well, what I didn't elaborate on was that I became a TOTAL mess on Saturday. And I mean a MESS. I would just sit and cry during the presentations. (Not noisily, just tears streaming down my face.) I was feel VERY discouraged because I felt like my H wasn't playing fair and I was stuck in a downward spiral that I couldn't pull out of. My H was getting REALLY overwhelmed and I judged him to be acting a little bit spoiled and like a baby and I felt angry that he wouldn't just participate like he "should". Really, I think that sleep deprivation, a fricking long-ass drive and then being hungry had really hindered our ability to cope. They did spontaneously give us a 20 minute break and my H and I went and took a quick nap which REALLY helped.

I will say my H will sometimes appear to not "get" something and then he will think about it and end up "agreeing". When we were in the "hurry up and make up your mind"-mode, he had requested that he have some time to really think and process the weekend; and then added, "besides, we still have more to do today, we don't know how it will turn out." I think he tossed that in because he could see I was shutting down/giving up.

I am encouraged that he is open to doing our homework and he was actually trying to think of easier ways for us to get to the post sessions. So, that's something I guess.