On the DB'ing Wagon!

[sage]

So if we know what WORKS, why is it so hard to DO??? Why is it so hard to QUIT doing what DOESN't work???

A thousand reasons, no?
Because it's a habit. Because we think it SHOULD work. Because we're afraid. Because we're human. etc

I've definitely found that stringing together a bunch of "hey, I did it!" moments really makes a big difference as something to fall back upon.

It helps me more to be here and reading the books than talking with my C. (another story.) The first book I read was "Getting Through to the Man You Love." I've also read DB and have DR but lent it out. A lot of the same principals.

Let me caution you about one thing...self help books can themselves become an anxiety producing enterprise...the "I know I can fix myself" feeling. I'm quite familiar with it!

It was an issue with h that I was so interested/ardent about reading R. books, etc. He felt that it was yet another sign that I would "never be happy".

so...I'd say go for the changes with gusto but remember:

You're aok the way you are!
Everything you need is inside of you!

In other words...be gentle with yourself...don't trade an external need for positive reinforcement to a "beating up on myself" habit either.

ACTION will help with that.

Sage