Slept with XH, help!!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Until one of you is dead it is not too late.

I'm not going to tell you to give up...which seems to be maybe what you're looking for.

Do what you do for yourself and for you. If you feel you have done enough then you have, if you feel you should go farther then you should.

But there is no formula for figuring out if you have made too many mistakes.

If you're both alive there is a chance.
If you can forgive you can do this. If not...no, unless your spouse is a masochist.
If you can be patience...it certainly helps.
If you can STFU it helps alot.